March 3, 2010

a piece of chicken

"i am not a piece of chicken on the buffet. first of all, i am a fillet mignon, and second, i'm not on the buffet!"

how many times do we make the people in our lives feel like options instead of priorities? how many times do we say, "i can do that if i'm not already doing something else?" in other words, if something better doesn't come along and my only other option is complete and utter boredom, then yes, i will spend time with you. i used the above quote/analogy in a conversation with a friend this week when i just felt like instead of being a priority or someone worth making time for i became an option. most of us are aware of our own value. some of us can't appreciate our value, but for the ones that do, we hope that everyone else can appreciate the qualities we have that we feel are outstanding. but when someone doesn't appreciate those qualities or only wants to spend time for you for shallow reasons other than just enjoying the person you are and enjoying your company, it can be discouraging and upsetting. i believe this happens a lot in relationships. people sometimes seek relationships for the wrong reasons. for instance, just because a girl is "on the market" does not mean that it's the meat market. if a guy is seeking a relationship of any kind with a girl just based on her appearance or any other surface-level traits, it can make a girl feel like an option and by no means someone worth getting to know. it can even make a girl, or guy because i realize it works both ways, resent the fact that he or she is attractive or has a fun personality. i say all of this to say first, i want the people in my life to know that they have significant roles in my life...that my life would not function the same without them...that they are in it for a purpose and have a priority. and second, for the people i am getting to know, i want them to know that i seek being in their presence for the right reasons...not for what i can get out of the friendship or relationship, but for how we can mutually bless each other's lives. i want my intentions to be pure in GOD'S eyes, and i never want someone to feel that i have used them or taken advantage of the relationship in which they have allowed me to share.

"all a man's ways seem innocent to him, but motives are weighed by the LORD." proverbs 16:2

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