March 30, 2011

the 10 things i wish i had known

a year or so ago i was asked to come back and speak to an all girls' bible class at the school i went to in alabama. the lovely lady who asked me to come asked that i speak about the things that i wish i had known in middle school and high school that would have influenced and made a difference in the things i worried about, the choices i made, and ultimately my whole life. therefore, i came up with "the 10 things i wish i had known" and shared it with those beautiful girls, and i'd like to share it now with you...

the 10 things i wish i had known...

1) the only boy who doesn’t have cooties is your daddy.
• “boys are beyond the range of anybody's sure understanding, at least when they are between the ages of 18 months and 90 years.” james thurber (aka a boy)
• point: concentrate on friendships; only 1 out of 20 high school relationships lasts a lifetime; it just won't last; book: dateable.

2) act your age, not your shoe size...especially if your shoe size is 18.
• point: i wish i hadn't been in such a hurry to grow up; enjoy your freedom/the easy life while it lasts; with age comes responsibility, which is good and bad; don't wish it away.

3) you’re never too young to make a difference.
• 1 timothy 4:12 “don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity.”
• “be the change you wish to see in the world.” ghandi
• point: be what you wish to see; because you are in an environment where you learn about GOD every day, you have the opportunity to be an example to others who haven't learned as much; be the type of girl that is modest, uses good language, and the type whom people admire; book: how to win friends and influence people for teenage girls.

4) words hurt worse than sticks.
• “the tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. it corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.” james 3:6
• “do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up.” ephesians 4:29
• point: words damage; “sticks and stones…” = bunch of bunk; words are lasting, whether positive or negative; if you say something about someone, expect her to find out about it; it takes 10 positive comments to override 1 negative; someone might say things in a moment of anger that you might never forget, and you could do the same.

5) make friends with your parents now or prepare to be enemies.
• colossians 3:20 “children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the LORD.”
• point: 7 years war – age 14 to 21; if you learn from your parents' mistakes you can save yourself the heartache of making those mistakes yourself; a lesson earned is much harder to learn; despite what you might think, your parents are kind of smart and actually might want the best for you.

6) you are…who you spend time with.

• 1 corinthians 15:34 “do not be misled: ‘bad company corrupts good character.’ “
• “tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are.” unknown
• “i am a friend to all who fear YOU, to all who follow YOUR precepts.” psalm 119:63
• point: you become whom you surround yourself with; you say the same things at the same time and like the same things; don’t expect to bring someone up, expect to be brought down; only be close friends with people who fear the LORD.

7) be still and know…yourself.
• “be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” dr. seuss
• "dance like no one is watching. sing like no one is listening. love like you've never been hurt, and live like it's heaven on earth." mark twain
• points: don't define yourself by what you do (sports, activities, etc.) but by WHOSE you are; take time to know yourself (favorite color, drink, quirks, etc.); if someone doesn't like you for who you are they don't matter; accept other people for what makes them special; everyone is "weird" in his/her own way.

8) the hardest and best thing you could ever say is “i’m sorry.”

• “my dear brothers, take note of this: everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” james 1:19
• “a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” proverbs 15:1
• point: this is something i struggle with; we must accept responsibility for the things we have done/do instead of blame someone else; saying i'm sorry and forgiving makes healing happen faster; some people will never apologize for the wrong things they've done to us, but we must forgive them anyway.

9) decisions determine destiny.
• “shoot for the moon, and if you miss you will still be among the stars.” les brown
• “life is partly what we make it, and partly what it is made by the friends we choose.” tennessee williams
• point: who you spend time with, how hard you study, what activities you participate in, etc. all determine where you go and what you do; every decision affects your direction; small decisions made in these years will determine where you go to college, whom you marry, etc.; bad decisions have bad consequences; be the best you can be and don't get discouraged book: technical virgin.

10) there is only one constant in life...GOD.
• “now listen, you who say, "today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money." why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. what is your life? you are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. instead, you ought to say, "if it is the LORD'S will, we will live and do this or that." james 4:13-15
• “set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. for you died, and your life is now hidden with CHRIST in GOD.” colossians 3:2-3
• “delight yourself in the LORD, and HE will give you the desires of your heart.” psalm 37:4
• point: i lost one of my best friends at 16; we are not promised tomorrow; like job, GOD will spare us nothing to draw us closer to HIM; nothing matters besides our relationship with GOD, and it doesn't matter what happens to us; when you are baptized, you die to yourself (your sinful desires) and must give it all up for the ONE you love.

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