August 1, 2011

the insignificant others

"she wanted something else, something different, something more. passion and romance, perhaps, or maybe quiet conversations in candlelit rooms, or perhaps something as simple as not being second." nicholas sparks, the notebook

many times we allow the value of our lives to be determined by the existence of significant others. suddenly our lives take on new importance when another person or other people define us as that special someone. and we kindly distribute the significance to those around us in return.

our lives become a constant quest for the significant, and we place far too much value on the important things in our lives. our impressions and appeal start being established by whether we walk into a room accompanied by significant arm candy. our success starts being measured by the number of significants who choose to rally around us. our importance starts being defined by how many significant contributions we are making. and we are in a continual state of wonder and concern about the significance of our personal level of significance.

but when it comes to being truly significant or defining the importance and value in our lives, it's the simple things in life that are the most extraordinary. less really is more. the best things in life really are free. and it's the insignificant that truly determines our significance.

it's waking up to another day. and remembering to thank GOD for it. it's being free of sickness. and able to take on the world. it's dancing in the rain. and laughing at our mistakes. it's celebrating in our triumphs. and standing back up after our failures. it's rejoicing in our humanity. while striving for our holiness.

it's showing up 5 minutes earlier. and staying just 15 more minutes. it's the perfect amount of salt in the food. and the extra chocolate chips in the cookies. it's going all out in celebrating your birthday. and your half birthday, too.

it's a phone call. it's a poem. it's a musical card. it's a post-it note reminding you that despite all of your quirks and flaws, you are loved. it's the surprise visit that came out of nowhere. and the flowers just because. it's turning a trip to walmart into a date. and sitting silently in the same room and being perfectly content.

it's someone telling you that your hair looks good on the day that you're certain it's never looked worse. it's receiving your favorite dessert just because it's your favorite. it's finding the sweet spot in the first row of the parking lot. it's your total at target ending in zeros. it's having just the right amount of change for the tollbooth. and making just the right grade to keep your A in the class.

it's the difference between flats and heels. between jeans and khakis. between fat-free and the real stuff. between margarine and butter. between a size L and a size M. between college-ruled and wide-ruled. between a shower and a bath. between a table and a booth. between a monday and a friday. between sweet-n-low and splenda.

it's the difference between weird and unique. between right and just right. between who and whom. between your and you're. between hours and minutes. between days and weeks. between yesterday and today. between yes and no. between acceptance and rejection. between pass and fail. between friends and just friends. between someone and someone special. between nobody and anybody and somebody and everybody.

and the truth is that the difference makes all the difference and that the insignificant others in our lives is what makes our lives significant. so in your own personal quest for the significant other, determine today to never underestimate the power of the insignificant.

2 comments:

  1. "when it comes to being truly significant or defining the importance and value in our lives, it's the simple things in life that are the most extraordinary. less really is more. the best things in life really are free. and it's the insignificant that truly determines our significance...it's waking up to another day. and remembering to thank GOD for it. it's being free of sickness. and able to take on the world. it's dancing in the rain. and laughing at our mistakes. it's celebrating in our triumphs. and standing back up after our failures. it's rejoicing in our humanity. while striving for our holiness."

    ~Beautiful, Charissa!! Thank you so much for reminding us to see beauty in everything. God cares for the sparrows and for the wildflowers, just as he cares for us...the signficant and "insignificant."

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  2. thank you, samantha! your beautiful example is such an encouragement to me! love you!

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